Asha Fox

Crazy cat lady

Asha Fox
Crazy cat lady

2018 was a year with some pretty big speed bumps and challenges. It wasn’t the worst, but a year I won’t be too sad to see the back of. The stand out highlight of my year was deciding to adopt a beautiful, rambunctious little asshole of a cat - Māui.

I have very quickly become a bit of a cat lady. This little (or rather huge now) kitten quickly took over my life and demanded a lot of my attention. The kind of cat for whom you have to earn affection - overactive and feisty, just like his Mum. But it has been the best thing to have happened to me in years for a few reasons.

Firstly, when you’re a person living alone, no spouse or children, it’s very easy to become self centred. You have no responsibilities other than yourself and your work, so you can become self indulgent and over invested in your work. I’m a natural nurturer, so for me, the added responsibility and care of something else other than myself, is incredibly grounding and uplifting. I now have to consider going home when otherwise I might have stayed out, I might have spent money on more frivolous things that didn’t provide the same wholesome rewards as expensive cat food. My kitten has really brought out the nurturing side of me that I missed. 

Secondly, my cat is just pure entertainment. I could have adopted a more ‘chilled’ kitty, one that doesn’t mind being cradled and loved. But, I just don’t think it would have been as fun. Māui is an endless source of entertainment for me. When he isn’t breaking my stuff, he’s sleeping on his back like a human (but don’t dare touch his tummy), or chasing ghosts, playing fetch, doing zoomies and making a tent out of every box and bag that entered my house. He has so much spirit - you can’t help but smile. I’m a dog person with a cat, but I think he easily fills the gap. He even sniffs and chews shoes, just like a dog lol.

Thirdly, he has forced me to think harder about my future. I have often been guilty of not caring enough about the future. Since moving to Australia under the circumstances that I did, I have been far too concerned with enjoying the here and now, as it has been good for my spirit. But having another living creature to consider, I have realised I would like a little more security in my life. It has kind of snowballed now into a lot of bigger plans for my future, including a new business and looking to buy property. He has motivated me so much, to want to make sure the many, many years I have with him are secure and happy.

I talk about my cat a lot, if you’re not an animal person, you may not fully understand. But you can probably understand what it is to have something small make such a significant impact on your life, and that’s what my fur baby is to me. I’m a stereotypical Millennial lol.